Have your arguments one at a time!

Have your arguments one at a time!

 Don't store up your resentments, hurts and anger until they become too much to handle and then blast them all out in one go when the straw hits the proverbial camel's back! You will appear unreasonable and your partner will probably behave very defensively. If there is something that is bothering you, take responsibility for your feelings and deal with it! Speak to your partner and say how you feel, without accusing him. Say "I feel hurt when you criticize me in public. I don't want you to do it anymore." Don't say "You always pick on me. I know that you think I am stupid!" Above all, don't say nothing and allow your feelings to build up until you explode and then drag out all the past hurts and complaints while you are about it!  Deal with things one at a time and as soon as possible.

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