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Ten Steps to Better Communication
While there are many factors that are important in the success or failure of a marriage, the ability to communicate with each other is one that stands out head and shoulders above the rest! I work extensively with couples, both online and offline. After more than 15 years of experience, I can safely say that, no matter what other problems exist, a marriage can stand or fall on the basis of how well the couple can communicate with each other.
I have counseled couples who have everything going for them. They have all the money they need and more. They have lovely children. They have beautiful homes, successful careers, supportive families - everything that they need! Yet because of poor communication skills, their marriage is failing. Conversely, I have counseled couples who are going through very hard times. This could be due to financial difficulties, illness, problems with children or even infidelity. Despite the difficulties that they experience, couples who can communicate clearly with each other have a much better chance of overcoming problems and staying together.
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Poor communication causes conflict, misunderstanding, hurt and resentment. Effective communication can keep marriages together in even the most difficult of times. If I had to identify the most important element of a successful marriage, it would be the couple's ability to communicate with each other.
Communication is a very complex thing. If it were simple, I suppose it would be much easier to get it right! In order to do the subject full justice, one would need to go into much more depth than is possible in the space of one E-booklet. However, over the years, I have identified certain communication styles or problems which cause difficulties in relationships. What I will do in this E-booklet, is to talk about some of the most important mistakes that couples make and also look at some strategies to develop healthier communication patterns in a marriage. As I go through them, I am sure that you will recognize yourself in many of the examples that I use. Whether you are a young couple who wants to improve on a good relationship, or a couple in crisis who need some help, this E-booklet will give you some guidelines to work on to improve your communication skills.
Before I continue, let us first establish that it is impossible NOT to communicate. Even when two people are refusing to talk to each other, they are communicating something. Communication consists of words, silences, body language and other observable behavior - not words alone.
Before I continue, let us first establish that it is impossible NOT to communicate. Even when two people are refusing to talk to each other, they are communicating something. Communication consists of words, silences, body language and other observable behavior - not words alone.
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Why have I begun with such a simple rule? Surely everybody knows this? Well, sure they do - but do they practice it? In my experience the answer is No. The majority of people who consult me with marriage problems do not make regular time to be together and just talk. Life is busy. Children, careers, chores, recreation, friends and even TV often take precedence over the couple's time together. When they do 'go out', it is probably to a movie or to friends where it is impossible to talk properly with each other. They are forever 'meaning' to spend time together and never get around to it. Soon they lose the ability to communicate with each other and may even find it difficult to spend time in each other's company. Look around you in a restaurant. Some people say that you can identify the people who have been married for more than five years by the fact that they neither look at nor talk to each other. This may be a generalization, but it is often not far from the truth.
Why have I begun with such a simple rule? Surely everybody knows this? Well, sure they do - but do they practice it? In my experience the answer is No. The majority of people who consult me with marriage problems do not make regular time to be together and just talk. Life is busy. Children, careers, chores, recreation, friends and even TV often take precedence over the couple's time together. When they do 'go out', it is probably to a movie or to friends where it is impossible to talk properly with each other. They are forever 'meaning' to spend time together and never get around to it. Soon they lose the ability to communicate with each other and may even find it difficult to spend time in each other's company. Look around you in a restaurant. Some people say that you can identify the people who have been married for more than five years by the fact that they neither look at nor talk to each other. This may be a generalization, but it is often not far from the truth.
Without sufficient time together, it is not possible to learn to communicate well with each other. I have had couples who have consulted me with major problems, which have improved with the simple addition of more quality time together. It is an extremely important prerequisite for healthy communication! Don't just agree to this in principle - practice it as well! Practice it NOW and not some time in the future when it is more 'convenient'.
Because time is difficult to come by, you should make a deliberate effort to make time for each other. The best way to do this is to set aside a regular time at least once a week, or to make a definite day which is 'your' day or evening as a couple. You do not need to go out or spend money - you can stay at home and spend time together as well. Many people want to do this, but never seem to get it right. This brings me to my second step.
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